What’s in a Heart?

Imagine being a mom with three teenage girls, knowing your time on earth was limited.  What would you do?  What would matter most?  At 42, my mother faced this reality and I am ever thankful for how she decided to answer those questions.  She left me a legacy of advice in a very short time.  When most young girls would be crossing their arms and pitching arguments with their mothers, I found myself sitting at the base of her comfy chair listening to her life’s wisdom. 

I remember a talk we had about human potential.  She told me that in the same way science had discovered that we only use 10% of our brain’s abilities; our hearts have an unlimited and often unused capacity to love. 

She would have me hold my hands to my heart and close my eyes to see if I could feel my heart’s capacity to love everything, just as it is.  I know, it seems like a lot to take in at just 16. But that one experience has become a grounding for me that has carried me through all kinds of suffering and joy.  It’s given me the grace to return to the love in my heart when I’m in the deepest struggles of my life.  It’s allowed my heart to fill up when I’m holding a grandchild or accepting gratitude from a friend.  To this day, my mother’s “heart wisdom” continues to transform me in an instant.

So, what’s in a Heart?  In every heart, there lies the infinite and limitless capacity to love. Imagine yourself standing at the edge of the ocean, with an open heart. Your ability to love is even greater than that! 

My fondest hope is that you take a moment to connect with your heart and feel the powerful capacity you have to love all things…just as they are.

It truly is limitless.


Beautiful. Unique. Resilient.


I fell in love with a succulent at a wedding, my daughter’s wedding actually.  She had them scattered all over the elegant ballroom and potted them as a little gift for every guest.  It was the perfect plant to reflect the resilience and adaptability that she would need as a wife, mother, daughter and friend. Soon after it become one of the precious symbols of Womenkind.

As it turns out, succulents have an amazing natural ability to survive the toughest of conditions for any plant.  How do they do it?  They morph their tiny roots, stems, and leaves into plump water retaining ecosystems that allow them to thrive. If their water supply it too little or too much, they shed their leaves and hunker down until they feel balance again.  When they are strong and happy, they grow again. 

Hum…sounds a little familiar.  As women we have the gift of knowing when we are in trouble and when we need to adjust for our own wellbeing.  The challenge is to listen for that wisdom and bring ourselves back to the life we love.  Back to a state of wholeness that allows us to thrive. Our bodies know what we need.  Our minds can quiet to a peaceful state in an instant. My fondest hope is that we remind each other of that self nurturing gift we hold as women in a busy and complicated world.

Like the beautiful colors and thick resilient leaves of a succulent, we too can return, again and again, to the juicy, strong, and fabulous woman we love being. Maybe it’s time to plant a succulent garden of our own.